Let's separate the true geek girls from the trendy geek girls.

It’s more likely assumed that the majority of girls who call themselves geeks aren’t geeks at all: they’re just girls who wear a child’s sized Justice League tee to accentuate their boobs; who know how to manipulate the ambiance of bathroom lighting in Photoshop; and who wear fake black-rimmed glasses not because they’re blind as a bat without them, but because they serve to reiterate the archetype they so desperately want to convey.

For those of us who exemplify the real thing, it’s all the more difficult to be taken seriously in an oversaturated geekdome world. Films portray us as timid and shy, always the butt of a joke, friendless, dateless, and lifeless. We’re just trudging along with a stack of science and math books under one arm, and a bag of cat food (for our ten cats) under the other arm, which, of course, when we trip and fall, will spill all over a public area where we will promptly be laughed at and ridiculed.

Geek boys seem to have it so much easier, because, well, it’s an easier assumption that boys can be geeks. The geek boy has his own archetype as well, and I’m not downplaying the roughness of that (overweight, little connection to popular culture, laughable sense of style, a medical journal’s worth of allergies, etc.). But the key difference here is that the geek guy hasn’t been exploited in the way that the geek girl has.

There are consistent threads running through our societal discourse about geek girls which are the basis for these myths surrounding our true nature that I’d like to address and rightfully put into an armbar submission. I do so on behalf of the clans of real geek girls out there who have been shamed for caring deeply about WoW or mislabeled as posers at midnight screenings of Marvel films.

Real geek girls are universally unattractive.

Honestly, what is the rationale behind this? Our interest in all things geek has nothing to do with our genetics. Sure, I like Star Wars because my parents did, but that’s not something you’re going to find in my DNA code. I *gasp* shop at the mall, know how to apply makeup, and have a closet full of shoes.

Real geek girls don’t date.

Since we’re assumed to be ugly, overweight, and look like the Junk Lady in Labyrinth, obviously we’re single. (I’m going to also guess that because we never go anywhere, the sunlight will burn through our skin.) Yeah, no. I’ve dated both geeks and non-geeks, and am engaged to a geek boy who I have dated for five years. He, much like myself, doesn’t fit into the geek stereotype (though we are going to Comic-Con for our honeymoon…).

Real geek girls are left-brained.

Did I win the high school science fair? Yes. Did I graduate magna cum laude from college? Yes. Am I a chemical engineer? No. Do I wear any sort of uniform or lab coat to work? No. I would argue that geek girls are more creative and artistic than they are logical and rational. Many geek girls excel in the fields of graphic design, motion media, and video game development. I’d take a set of Sharpies over a set of beakers any day.

Real geek girls can’t hold their own vs. real geek guys.

Geek boys always assume that their masculinity dominates over our femininity. Really, boys? I’m not going to argue that one group surpasses the other, but I am saying that we can absorb just as much geekery as anyone else can.

The reality to all myths is that there’s some truth behind them, but in many cases, the stereotypes overshadow the facts. The reality is that real geek girls do exist, and we’re a growing, thriving community. To those of you girls out there who think it’s cool to dress up as Catwoman for Halloween because the pleather form-fits your figure, great. But we real geek girls are asking politely to please stop (ab)using the geek girl paradigm as a way to get attention.

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  • haha, I dig it, good to get a good insight from the female perspective on this topic 😉

    I think this is the #1 busted myth you wrote: “Real geek girls are universally unattractive.”

    The #1 desire for Geek Guys is to get a Geek Girlfriend. If I’m at a party, and any girl there announces she plays videogames (not casually but knows about them more in depth) or is into comics, she gains a +1 (+letter grade, whatever you want to call it on your own ranking system dudes) to every other girl there.

    Something Geek girls have over dumb bitches is interest. Whereas both sexes can agree upon the vast abundance of boring guys and girls there are (go to a dating site and count how many people have “beer” and “red sox” as their ONLY interests) geek interests keep things, well… interesting. But for the males, guys.. that doesn’t mean play more games and read more comics, girls like ambition! ..and cuddling, and guys who listen, and fast cars, and puppies… bah where was I.. I’ll just say to me a Geek Girl always comes with intelligence, and intelligence is quite sexy. We men are simple creatures, because our genitalia holds a large part of our brain, all a Geek Girl has to do at a convention is show an arm or leg, mention how she just beat God of War 3, and we follow like shy zombies 50 feet away.

    • Amen brotha.

      Best thing you said there, “a Geek Girl always comes with intelligence.” ALWAYS is a strong word, but I would agree that geek girls tend to be more interesting to talk to.

      “Beer” and “Red Sox” are two things I certainly don’t care about, so if a chick wants to talk comics or wrestling, or even just about a good movie, me = melt.

      • You boys ++.

        Intellect, wit, and sarcasm = best solution (I think). You can be intelligent, but it’s those anecdotal quips peppered throughout a conversation that, as a geek girl, makes things the most enjoyable. Especially when you can build upon things like, Ryan Reynold’s portrayal of Hannibal King > why are they making an “X-Men Origins: Wolverine 2”? > a mutual love for J.L. Picard > tribbles (and the trouble with them).

        PS: No shy zombies. Just ask Max Brooks.